The Sweet Relief of a Good Cry

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Crying mothers are a touchy topic.  Somehow mothers think they are supposed to feel only joy, only be smiling and content, only feeling physically blissed out.  The reality is many women are shocked to their core about what just happened.  They have just allowed a human being passage through their bodies, if they are breastfeeding they are keeping a person alive with their breast milk.  This can be stressful and challenging and really emotional.  With all those feelings come tears.

The instinct to hide those tears is strong! Not wanting to appear ungrateful for their life or their babies,  mothers put on their happy faces and keep it together! This is one of the many reasons I started Red Tent (a mother’s group) many years ago.  So that the tears could emerge with the real conversations, leading to the real connections between women in the community.

Giving birth is one of the most alive experiences you will ever have and crying is just simply an expression, an outlet, a discharge of all that emotion.  It is commonly judged and suppressed in our society but what if you could cry and just feel like it was a natural part of the process? Especially in the postpartum, women are tender in so many ways.  That is why the need for a quiet and private postpartum is so important – both the mother and baby need to be buffered from harshness so that those soft, alive feelings can be enjoyed instead of suppressed.

Let it the tears flow and trust that they are leading you somewhere.  Holding in your tears is painful and your body lets you know that – lump in the throat, burning eyes, chest pain… The sweet relief of a good cry ~

For more information on homeopathy and using it to guide you through those tender times please visit my website – http://www.pipermartin.com

 

 

Be Available

If you are physically present with your children be available to them.  Have you ever noticed the effect of just lying or sitting on the couch when they are in the room with you? It is usually pure delight, wanting to cuddle in, chat or just share the activity they are involved in.

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Grant them this access every single day.  This is a wonderful foundation for your life with teenagers.   The casual conversations that occur will be so important to you both.

much love

Piper

Overstimulation and the Crying Baby

Crying is one way babies respond to overstimulation.  In my experience babies have very few filters for what we consider every day noise, light and interaction with the world.  Some babies simply go to sleep to escape, others nurse and nurse and still others scream and cry.

Interestingly it is mothers who crave a lot of stimulation in their lives that have very sensitive babies.  Babies are very powerful people, without the ability to speak they are extremely clear about their optimal environment.  Since this translates as a calm baby that is willing to sleep, most parents are willing to adapt.  Just like that your whole life changes.

The process of homeopathic case taking will assist you in understanding the cues of your child and the environment that is best for their well-being.  Feeling relaxed is actually part of survival for babies as they are able to eat, digest and sleep at a higher level than if they are stressed.  

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Homeopathic remedies will help ease the sensitivity and reactivity of your baby, helping them to calm faster and seek comfort instead of escalating their response.  

Situations that promote overstimulation include;

  • having company in your home that wants to hold your baby
  • trips to the grocery store, mall or errands in the car
  • attending events – weddings, parties, sporting events etc.
  • naps timed to occur  in the car
  • bringing the baby to appointments and errands

I know that it seems like you won’t be able to do anything when you have a newborn and you are right.  Babies do not want to attend classes or go shopping.  They want a quiet, calm environment, soft light and a slow pace.  In this setting they will thrive.  You can push through and sometimes it just happens,  but those are the times that your baby will fuss, cry, be unable to settle and require a lot of extra grounding – this is what overtimulation looks like.

Mothers can schedule their own time for appointments, shopping, social time when their partners are home or a friend is available to be with the baby in their home.  As time goes on babies will become more flexible and able to tolerate outings and adventures.

If you do want to go out with your baby I suggest:

  • the forest, walks away from cars and noise
  • small quiet groups where you feel calm and peaceful
  • meeting one friend at a time for a visit
  • the library

Keep it simple at the pace of a baby.  Use a sling to provide a buffer for your newborn.

It is highly possible that in this way of living you will also feel calm and rested, peaceful and present.  Try it.

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Motherhood as a Process of Expansion

Do you ever notice that when people are contemplating change they only seem to imagine negative impacts and outcomes, rarely the upward shift to positive possibilities ?  This idea of being prepared for the worst is really an undermining state of mind.  What if you prepared for the best?  How would that change your level of hope, the way you spent your time, the way you spent your money?!!

the positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible

Homeopathy is about challenging your mind and body to prepare for the best possible outcomes.  To help you to fine tune your way into the highest flying feelings you can imagine.  This is partly a process of self-discipline,  but also a desire led way of living, to decide that you only want to feel good as much as possible.  Imagine being raised by parents that modeled this self integrity?  The reason homeopathy plays a role in this process is that your own self knows the truth and when you use homeopathy in a constitutional,  clinical manner,  your own body keeps you on track.  Eventually it just becomes the way you think and you pick up the cues when you are off course and easily self correct.

Becoming a mother is a pivotal moment of deciding to either be sucked into the world of fear or checking in with what feels good for you and your child.  It is a moment to expand.  If you aren’t sure how to proceed but you feel the desire, consider homeopathy to help move things along.

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Pain Relief for Newborns

Homeopathy is an excellent choice for pain relief in newborn care.  It is safe, effective and gentle.  Homeopathy will support the natural healing and pain relief mechanisms that exist within the body.  What this means in real form,  is that the remedy will guide the body to do what it needs most for support.  In a baby this might mean sleeping more, coaxing a parent to let them sleep in a certain position, nursing more or less frequently, having more bowel movements, creating discharges such as mucus.  It may even mean crying as a form of releasing the experience.  All of these subtle adjustments are working with the body towards healing and without those cues the process takes longer.

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Let’s imagine that your baby has had surgery.  The very best relief you can offer your child is breast milk.  It contains natural opiates and offers both mental/emotional reassurance and physical relief.  If this is not an option for the baby then touch and intentional language is also very important.  I believe babies understand everything you say and holding a belief that they are capable and strong will impact them positively.  Using statements like – I know you are going to sail right through this, you have a strong, healthy body, this will pass quickly – will reassure both you and the baby.

Remedies to use immediately after surgery in a general sense include:

  • Arnica 200C – bruising, bleeding, shock and injury to muscles
  • Bellis 200C – bruising to soft tissues
  • Hypericum 200C – injury to nerve rich areas and nerve tissue
  • Aconite 1M – fright and shock
  • Opium 1M – constipation after surgery, excessive effects of narcotic drugs
  • Phosphorus 1M – vomiting from general anesthetic or other allopathic drugs

I prefer high potencies for newborn care as they are the most vital beings and you want to match their vitality with the potency choice of the remedy.

To give a newborn a remedy put two pellets in a 1/2 cup of water.  Give the baby a teaspoon of the mixture.  If the baby is not able to take things by mouth,  pat the mixture on the pulse points.

For specific guidance please feel free to consult with me.  You can set up an email consultation at http://www.pipermartin.com

 

 

 

 

An Invitation to Speak up

I was hiking today and considering what it would be like to approach the subject of vaccination in the new town I have landed in.  I was wondering how to gracefully enter into this conversation without causing fear or guilt or confusion.  The crux of the  matter is that I just wish to offer people some perspective that is not very widely shared.

Having been in private practice for 17 years and predominantly seeing babies and children has allowed me a perspective that doctors and medical people do not have.  I have had the chance to get to know these people on a mental, emotional and physical level and observe what the difference is between a vaccinated body and an unvaccinated body.  There is a difference.  I am curious if other parents and alternative practitioners would be willing to offer their perspective on this topic.

Please offer your insight and observations as the care provider, parent or health practitioner of unvaccinated children.  Put it into words.  I KNOW there are others that share my perspective and I am curious….

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unvaccinated vibrant 16 yr. old

with thanks

Piper

Little Babies can’t blow their Noses!

 

Often little ones get congested and it turns into something bigger,  simply because they have a very hard time clearing the mucus.  When the mucus sits at any point too long, then infection can form – in the ears, eyes, chest and throat.  Homeopathy keeps the mucus flowing  and I have included some other easy suggestions to help your babies manage a cold.

Mucus in the Eyes, Nose and Chest

Pulsatilla 200C 

  • thick YELLOW mucus
  • can be either eye and often will swing back and forth
  • may also be thick, yellow mucus from nose
  • this is the main remedy for newborn goopy eyes
  • loose cough goes on through the night and early morning
  • babies are weepy and want a lot of contact during illness
  • thirstless except for lots of comfort nursing
  • will alternate an okay mood and then weeping all day long

Medorrhinum 1M

  • mucus is green – in eyes and nose
  • snuffly babies from birth – often with green discharge in eyes
  • hot babies, night owls and prefer to sleep on their stomach
  • chesty colds – this is the place colds tend to land for these babies
  • very bad diaper rashes with blistering and open sores
  • reactions and cravings for citrus and strawberries
  • these babies are a little wild – fierce and passionate

Mercurius 200C

  • green, fluent discharges – from eyes and nose
  • diarrhea with illness – mucus can come from this location too
  • sweaty and drooly during illness – especially at night
  • intense ear infection pain – especially at night
  • very unhappy during illness – want connection but is not comforted by it like Pulsatilla babies
  • alternating hot and chilly during illness
  • bad breath- which is an unusual symptom in children

Suggestions for managing the flow of mucus:

  • BREAST MILK IN THE EYES! every time you possibly can squirt their eyes with breast milk.  Also great for diaper rashes.
  • CHIROPRACTIC  adjustment – this will really help keep things flowing and prevent ear infections!
  • PROP up the bed with folded blankets under the fitted sheet.
  • Don’t be alarmed if the mucus comes out in a coughing fit that ends in vomiting, this is one of the main ways babies discharge mucus quickly and efficiently.
  • Reassure your baby that they have strong, capable bodies and they will move through this with ease.  Keep yourself steady and provide them with lots of quiet, easy time AT HOME to recover.

I provide email consulting through my website – http://www.pipermartin.com should you need more guidance or support!

 

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Midwifery Series #5 -Homeopathic Medicine for FRIGHT! FOR mothers, fathers and babies

The best thing about homeopathy is that it impacts your mental/emotional state – WITHOUT drugging you or your kids.

It reminds you of what is real and helps your body to mirror that truth.  When our bodies get frightened physical symptoms such as shortness of breath, rapid heartbeat,clenching, flushing, shaking, sweating and crying can occur.

Allopathic medicine seeks to shut down the physical experience and make the symptoms disappear.

Homeopathic medicine seeks to address WHY the symptoms are there, and address both the physical and the emotional discomfort.  Homeopaths understand that the body speaks to us in the language of symptoms.  This is especially useful when you have a child that is pre-verbal.  Understanding body cues is key to compassionate care of your baby.  It takes time and careful observation of both yourself and your children,  but these mysteries will be revealed if you persist.

Fear is one of the easier mysteries to see because the expression is so dynamic.  They physical symptoms mentioned above are all quite obvious, especially in a baby or small child.  As adults we tend to compensate and hide these expressions but they are happening regardless of our suppression.

Here is one of the easiest remedies to use for fear and anxiety – helpful for mothers, babies and fathers….

Aconite 1M

This is the top seller in my practice! Aconie works instantly to relieve a panic attack, calm anxiety and settle a person who has been triggered by something frightening.  Aconite relieves symptoms such as;

  • restless pacing
  • heart racing, rapid breath
  • fear of dying
  • claustrophobic in crowds or anywhere
  • fear of birth, fear of the pain of birth
  • transition during birth – feeling as if you were about to die!
  • birth trauma – when a baby has been surrounded by people who fear he/she will die.
  • nightmares after a fright
  • fear in the birth room – fathers and grandparents that feel frightened
  • anxiety after talking about something that upset you
  • anxiety after a fight or anticipating an argument
  • anxiety going into a presentation, dental appointment or performance
  • for babies it appears as – clenching jaw, eyes shut and fists shut, screaming and fearful

Give two pellets of Aconite 1M and wait.  Within just a few minutes you will observe/feel easier breathing, calmer language, a softer body and the fear subsiding.  It reminds you of who you really are and where you are in the present moment.

If you feel you need more guidance in using this remedy please contact me at http://www.pipermartin.com

Midwifery Series #4 – Homeopathic Medicine for Mastitis

Homeopathic medicine is incredibly effective for the treatment of Mastitis.  It is safe for mothers and babies, will resolve the problem quickly and without any invasive treatment.

Newborn baby breastfeeding.
Newborn baby breastfeeding.

In most cases mastitis is a signal of overextending, mothers that are trying to do too much too soon after birth. Dehydration is also a large factor in mastitis.

Mastitis and a recurrence of bleeding are two of the most common signs that mothers need more rest, water, food and rest! Heed these signals and all will be well.

Belladonna 1M 

  • sudden onset
  • worse at 3:00 am and 3:00 pm
  • fever, headache, flushed face, glazed eyes
  • worse on the right side – breast has red streaks
  • HOT to touch, DRY and HOT
  • throbbing sensations

Bryonia 200C

  • dry mouth, dry lips – dehydrated
  • severe headache, worse from ANY motion
  • breasts are painful from ANY motion
  • bad mood, irritable
  • slow onset, low grade fever
  • cannot bear a bra or any touch

It is most beneficial if the remedy is taken as soon as the first symptoms appear. Take two pellets of the indicated remedy and wait.  You should see a change within the 1:10 time frame – for example if the pain has been present for one hour – 60min then the symptoms should shift within 6 min.  Nurse the baby as often as possible on the painful side and line up the baby’s chin with the duct that seems to be the most affected.  This will drain that duct and clear any blockage.

If you need more guidance in choosing a remedy or managing mastitis please feel free to email me for personal support.

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Midwifery Series #3 – Top FIVE remedies to Fire UP labour

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Remedies are used to lift fear, create productive, rhythmical contractions and reassure women and babies that they are safe and all is well.

Occasionally women need assistance at different points in their labour to move the momentum forward.  This may be for a variety of reasons such as:

  • Gelsemium 200c – performance anxiety – labour is going along well and the midwives arrive then everything stops or they arrive at the hospital and things peter out.
  • Pulsatilla 200C or Phosphorus 1Mrupture of membranes with no contractions – often women are on a time schedule,  according to the community standards of the hospital – most health facilities want to see active labour within 18-24 hours of ruptured membranes.
  • Arsenicum 200Cstall in dilation at 6 cm – this is a point in labour where things normally really take off.  It can feel very out of control and frightening for some people.  In response to this,  their bodies slow things down.
  • Aconite 1Mfreezing up at a previous traumatic point in labour – our bodies remember previous birth experiences. If a woman stalled at a certain point in her birth and had to have an intervention,  her body often repeats this action in the next birth – even though she may not consciously know she is at that same point.

Gelsemium 200C – feeling exhausted, heavy, as if too tired to continue labour.  Gets nervous and sleepy as midwives arrive and set up or they arrive at the hospital.  Contractions slow down and labour can cease.

Pulsatilla 200C – weepy and frightened at the thought of going into labour- false labour – contractions stop and start, appear in the front, back, down the legs – key word is changeability.  Women needing Pulsatilla will not want to do anything to bring labour on- such as go for a walk – they are frightened and want to hide from the experience.

Phosphorus 1M – Phosphorus women may be overwhelmed by the rupture of membranes.  They are alarmed by what is about to happen and fearful that their baby may be at risk.  Phosphorus women tend to have big reactions to medications and allopathic induction will affect them strongly.

Arsenicum 200C – Arsenicum women tend to be A type personalities that strongly dislike being out of control.  They often stall at either 6cm or in the second stage of labour.  They strongly dislike the sensation of pushing.

Once you have picked a remedy that matches, give two pellets of the indicated potency.

Remedies are widely available at most health food stores, from homeopaths and naturopaths.

Once the remedy has been given wait within the 1:10 time frame – for example – if membranes have been ruptured for 1 hour then you will see a change within 6 minutes.

A change means contractions starting, bloody show, position change, new attitude evolving etc.  Once you see action just observe, there is no need to repeat the remedy once change is initiated.

If you are in need of more information or guidance on this subject please refer to my website – http://www.pipermartin.com.  I have two e-books available as well as mentoring via email for 20.00.