Crying mothers are a touchy topic. Somehow mothers think they are supposed to feel only joy, only be smiling and content, only feeling physically blissed out. The reality is many women are shocked to their core about what just happened. They have just allowed a human being passage through their bodies, if they are breastfeeding they are keeping a person alive with their breast milk. This can be stressful and challenging and really emotional. With all those feelings come tears.
The instinct to hide those tears is strong! Not wanting to appear ungrateful for their life or their babies, mothers put on their happy faces and keep it together! This is one of the many reasons I started Red Tent (a mother’s group) many years ago. So that the tears could emerge with the real conversations, leading to the real connections between women in the community.
Giving birth is one of the most alive experiences you will ever have and crying is just simply an expression, an outlet, a discharge of all that emotion. It is commonly judged and suppressed in our society but what if you could cry and just feel like it was a natural part of the process? Especially in the postpartum, women are tender in so many ways. That is why the need for a quiet and private postpartum is so important – both the mother and baby need to be buffered from harshness so that those soft, alive feelings can be enjoyed instead of suppressed.
Let it the tears flow and trust that they are leading you somewhere. Holding in your tears is painful and your body lets you know that – lump in the throat, burning eyes, chest pain… The sweet relief of a good cry ~
For more information on homeopathy and using it to guide you through those tender times please visit my website – http://www.pipermartin.com