When I see an older child with separation anxiety there has inevitably been separation at the birth. This casualness we have about routinely separating mothers and babies in the first few hours of life is a problem. It does impact people. It does create distress which can have both physical and mental/emotional outcomes. We are so trained to accept the protocols and rules of hospitals and taught that doctors “have our best interests at heart” that we don’t speak up. What is really the risk of shouting out against those rules?
Over time I have heard many stories about women not being allowed to touch, hold or nurse their babies after birth. This may be due to real or anticipated complications with the baby or it may be as simple as they want to “observe” the baby. The part that stays with the mothers is the loss of connection after the birth. IF it stays with the mothers, it also stays with the babies. SPEAK UP. It is the ONLY way things will change.
Letters written to hospitals are taken very seriously – write your thoughts and feelings, even if it is months later to the hospital, let them know they need to shift their policies and protocols. Commit to what you feel passionate about.